After a day filled with so much love and joy, today my heart is filled with sadness, anger and grief. The events that occurred yesterday are enough to make us hurt deeply. And the worst part? The helplessness we feel. The fear of it happening anywhere. The want to rewind and stop these horrific acts from happening. From there the only thing for us to do is to place blame.
One of the
worst scariest things in the world to me is the fact that anyone can have a baby. Anyone can raise a child or for the sake of argument, NOT raise them at all. Am I the only one who finds this terrifying? In our sheltered, privileged lives we could never imagine the horrors some children are exposed to. Neglect, drugs, molestation to name a few. Those times in our lives– when our brains our developing–they are most critical to who we will be as we mature.
The opinions I am about to express are my own. I do not force my views on anyone. I understand we all have shared different experiences and those experiences play a huge part in our views. If you wish to stop reading I won’t feel offended. I hope you will read though. There are times I need to release thoughts in my mind and today is one of those days. If you’d like to read an opposing opinion or a shared perspective, please continue.
When there’s a car accident, who do we normally blame? The car? Sometimes there are faulty parts that caused the accident, sure. Do we blame the person behind it? More than likely. We look at all the details as to why and how this crash occurred. Was the person intoxicated? Did they fall asleep behind the wheel?
We forget to use this logic when it comes to gun violence. Often, we think the gun killed people, that’s what we can blame! Let’s take the guns away! What about the cars? Cars kill people every single day. They’re a dangerous weapon. Why aren’t we taking away people’s cars? When we are hurt by something so deeply like what happened yesterday we tend to think the easiest thing to do is to take things away. Simply put, be gone with the pain.
Why don’t we look and investigate beyond the obvious, as we do for these car accidents? How come we can’t look at the person involved and say, “Hey. Maybe this person had a mental illness. We should really focus and give more attention to mental illness. How come there was no help?” Or “Was this person a victim of bullying? Lets focus on stopping bullies.” Let’s look more closely at families and understand sometimes it’s the way they were raised. Sometimes it’s an illness in them that needs to be noticed. And sometimes it’s just a sociopath maniac.
Our system is more than faulty too. No matter what, if you really wanted to, you can get ahold of a gun. It will always be that way, unfortunately. For instance look at drugs. They’re illegal and one of the biggest issues in the world today. It doesn’t stop people from selling and using, does it? What thought process makes sense to others that making guns illegal is beneficial to all citizens as a whole? Especially from those who conceal one with the intent to protect themselves and their loved ones. A good guy with a gun will always defeat a bad gun with a gun. Take those away from the good, and the bad will still be bad, leaving us with no way of defense.
My hope is for this country to unite and compromise on such an important topic. I know there is a way for us to all understand each other and find a happy medium. We just have to be willing to adjust slightly and accommodate on both sides of this debate. There is a way to fix this and as Americans I believe we can do it, but we have to do it together.
My heart, my soul, and all my prayers go out to everyone who was affected by these horrific acts yesterday. If there were a way to take the pain away, I would. ♡